Just Send the Freaking Email

We're short and sweet today with a simple message.

Stop waiting. Stop questioning everything. STOP HOLDING YOURSELF BACK.

Flip the script. Do it scared. SEND THE FREAKING EMAIL.

Start messy, start unsure...JUST START.

And if you want some help to get you started, I'm only an email away!

You've got this babe.

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Hello, hello, welcome back to another episode of redefining fabulous, today is going to be just a nice short and quick episode. And I'm really just kind of want to share a recent story with you because it kind of it kind of made me think about things a little bit differently. And I just kind of wanted to share it with you guys. Because I think that you might also relate to this. So I think a lot of times in our businesses in our life, for that matter. We are by far the biggest things holding ourselves back. So when you look at a situation and you think about like why you can't do it, a lot of that is coming from that mindset of I can't do it because it's going to be hard, I can't do it, because I might fail. I can't do it because of what people might think whatever it is. But I want you to kind of like think twice about that. I want you to kind of reframe that a little bit. Because recently, I had a new client come to me who has actually been a friend for a really long time. And she has this amazing idea to start this new business. And you know, like all of us, she was afraid to fail, she was afraid of all of the things that could go wrong. She was afraid of feeling like an imposter. She was she was just afraid, right? You, you get that you've been there, we've all been afraid of something in our life. So being scared is okay. I fully believe in being scared. Because if you're scared, if you have fear, that means that you're actually attempting to pursue something, right, you're actually thinking about the chance of what could go right. Okay. So I fully believe that the universe has a way of speaking to us, the universe has a way of telling us and pushing us and giving us those visceral feelings to move forward and pursue something. So about three years ago, I was in a position of basically starting my life over I had to make so many decisions about my future, and to really kind of decide what I wanted to do with my life, my career. And in that season, for me, there was a lot of fear, there was a lot of worry about all the things that could go on, like literally all the things would keep me up at night. And I would wonder and say a lot of like, what if, but, and then, you know, over time, that started to change a little bit, I started to listen to a lot of self development podcasts, I started to really just kind of like dive into personal development. And you know, some of the key pieces that I took out of that season was that alignment is like this thing that you can't see. But when you when it's right, like when things are aligned, you feel it, you know that it's right, but there's no way for you to find that in a book, there's no way for you to Google what your purpose is in life, the only way to actually find that out is to pursue it is to try things is to see what feels good to see what doesn't see what works. See what you learn along the way. And, you know, I had a lot of mixed feelings about alignment in general, because in my past life of being in the wedding industry, I thought at that time that I was aligned, I felt like I was doing what I was good at what I was meant to do. And looking back because you know, hindsight is 2020 You know, looking back, I was doing things that I was going at for a long time and I was not being pushed to really figure out what the purpose was. I had no idea what purpose even meant at that point, right? All I knew is that I had found a career I had built a business and it was succeeding. It was making money it was becoming, you know, popular in my area. And, you know, looking back if I had known the things that I know now, I probably would have realized that it wasn't aligned for me But the only way out is through, right? The only way out is to do something and figure out that that's not for you. So three years ago, when I decided to, you know, sort of explore what business was going to look like, for me moving forward, I knew that I had all of these skills, I knew I had years under my belt, as a photographer, a designer. I didn't really realize it at the time, but I've had a lot of social media strategy under my belt over the all those years of growing those companies, I had all of these skills, but I had no idea how to put them together. So instead of, you know, sitting around and wondering what if which I did plenty of by the way, but when I finally made that decision to really put the, like one foot in front of the other, you know, I started to try things. And I started to see what made sense and what fit. And in the last year, I've found the most clarity and alignment I have ever, ever found how I've ever felt, I've never felt as aligned as I am right now. And I think it's really important to talk about alignment as a sense of feeling. Because I think that too often, we are chasing something, we're chasing something, maybe it's not even always tangible. But we're chasing something specific. And I think that the problem there is that we focus so much on the destination that we're trying to get to that we kind of just go through the motions during the day along the way. And we're not really picking up the details, we're not really picking up the pieces of development of learning along the way. And so a couple of weeks ago, when this friend came to me and asking, just for my opinion, for my help all of these things, you know, it was something for me that I really started to realize that like, not only am I feeling this alignment, but so are you, the people who are coming to me, or asking for my advice, or asking for what I think about this, because they view me, as someone who's done, I don't want to say that they view me as a hero there has I am no hero guys, like I struggle and fail every single freaking day, okay, but I do have the power to pursue, I do have the power to keep going. And I'm like, half of this alignment now feels so good. Because people are recognizing that like you are recognizing that. And you are now coming to me to like, like validate that I am aligned, because I'm doing what feels really good. It feels really good to be able to help someone turn a dream into reality, it feels impactful. It doesn't feel like a transaction, it doesn't feel like here's my money, will you just help me like that is not how I roll, I want to be invested in it, I want to like become a partner in a sense, because I want us to have this collaborative effort. So yesterday, I was actually in a community call. And we talked a lot about our dreams and who we are and what we do and all of these things. And you know, as ever, every time that someone asks what I do every time that someone asks, So what's what's this what a fabulous up to, every time I am, you know, developing this elevator speech on the fly, you know, like, I'm just kind of like spitting out all these words, and I feel like it yesterday and in the last few weeks that elevator speech or that description is becoming more and more the same each time. And what that tells me is that I am finally finding alignment. Now that is not to say that that alignment is not going to evolve, okay, so it's important to recognize that and that feeling aligned, or reaching alignment, per se, there is no reaching alignment, okay, you can find alignment, and you can do whatever you want with the alignment. But alignment has to evolve. Okay. And so what I'm realizing is that I have finally figured out what it is that I am doing with this company that like the future plans, the goal, the impact that I want to make. And I think that it's important to recognize that that doesn't happen overnight. So so many of you come to me asking, not flat out asking for a one way trip to success but like society has instilled in us that these destinations are so important. And what I hate about that is that you want like you want like a one time solution just like I'm going to pay for it and I want to have it solved. And trust me, I get it. I am also that way about many, many things. But it's it tells me something that this needs to be talked about more. Because when you come to me asking for help, and you come to me asking for a way to reach success, you got to know that it's in the journey, you got to know that there is no quick answer. There's no quick solution. It is all about putting in the work, putting in the discipline. It's all about that journey. So back to that friend that came to me a couple of weeks ago with this idea. And you know, she came scared. And you know what, guys, I am a professional hype girl. Like, I literally love being your hype girl. She didn't want to send this text message. She didn't want to send this email. She was very scared. And, you know, I brought her to the sense of what do you have to lose? Like, literally, this is the beginning for you. What do you have to lose? Okay, and she sent this email against probably every will. She had, she said this email. And a couple days went by. And she instantly went into that rabbit hole of they ghosted me. They're not interested, what what am I doing? Who am I even and I said, Stop, for one second, just stop. Even if they don't get back to you, and they don't want you to be a part of this event, or they don't have a space available to add you to this event. What did you learn? What did you push yourself to do? You learned that sending the email, didn't like the world did not end because you sent that email. Not everybody's gonna get back to you. And that's okay. But the fact that she took the step, past fear, and she took that step into what could have been something was something she wasn't recognizing. It was something she wasn't celebrating. And so of course, I reminded her of that, and guess what, the very next day, possibly even later that day, I don't actually remember, they got back to her. And they got back to her wanting her to be a part of the event. Okay. And so she's, she's celebrating, she's doing all the things and she's, she's just like, Oh, my God, I would have never gotten here, if I would not have sent that email. Okay. So the reason I'm telling you this story is because it's okay, if you don't feel aligned right now. It's okay. If you don't feel like you are in your purpose, right now, if you're not doing the things that maybe you're meant to do, that's okay. Recognizing that is the first step. That's okay. There are seasons for all of this. But the only way that you are going to find your purpose or find what you're meant to do, or find the thing that you love, is to try, you've got to put one foot in front of the other. So if there's one thing that I can get across to you today, I want you to think about any of the fears that are holding you back any of the decisions that need to be made in the near future that are related to your life, your business, it actually doesn't matter what they're related to think about the number one fear on your mind right now. Okay, I want you to take a second think about the greatest fear you have right now. Now think about all of the things that could go wrong. Think about it, think about all the things that could go wrong. Now, take a step. Do it anyway, send the email, do the damn thing. Because you're never going to know if you don't the pain of regret the pain of wondering what if wondering what would have happened if you would have just sent the freaking email. That pain is way worse than not getting asked to be a part of that event. That pain of wondering if you could have made it will haunt you, it will linger. So do not put yourself in that position. I want you to take this step today doesn't have to be a full step. It doesn't have to be a full on solution for anything. But take a freaking Step. Send the freaking email. And if you're having trouble with that, you know where to find me. I promise I am your forever professional hype girl. Take the damn Step. Send the email. I'll chat with you soon. All right, babe. I hope you really enjoyed today's conversation. I'm super curious to know what your biggest takeaway was from today. So go ahead and share this episode on social media. Make sure you tag me at this way to fabulous and let me know what you connected with. What did you learn from the episode and what action item are you going to take today? Until next time, guys Keep pushing keep dreaming and let's keep on redefining fabulous chatroom guys